The Ultimate Surprise!!

I’m writing about this topic for one of my dearest friends ever. I had started this blog a few days ago and then stopped because I thought it was “stupid.” But as I talked to her today we started talking about her sister who is pregnant and her debate over whether or not she should find out what she’s having. I thought it was funny and somewhat ironic that her sister was struggling over this issue and I was struggling over blogging about this issue! So here’s to my amazing friend and her amazing sister:)


As most of you know when we were pregnant we didn’t want to know what we were having. Let me rephrase that….. I didn’t want to know what we were having. I had to pretty much beg and plead that we wouldn’t find out! Some call this old fashioned, some call it crazy! I call it motivation!!

It’s actually quite amusing when you tell people you don’t know what you’re having and no you’re not going to find out. Some people get mad, some think that you’re lying and just not telling them, some think you’re out of your mind and other’s think it’s absolutely amazing.

The funny part of all of this is that, I tell all my friends who are pregnant to not find out. I guess I want that ultimate surprise for them too. But it drives me absolutely crazy to not know what they’re having! I have absolutely no problem waiting 9 months for myself but my best friend gets pregnant and I HAVE to know! It’s crazy I know!! I think it comes back to that whole motivation thing.

I watched two of my cousins be born and maybe from that time on I knew I would need LOTS of motivation. For everyone who’s had a baby or watched one be born……you know what I’m talking about!:)

People are funny….. I will never forget the most precious old man that Justin and I ran into at the hospital one of the nights we were there for birthing classes. He came right up to me and said “looks like you have a watermelon under your shirt” we laughed and then he said “and I’m sure you already know what you’re having, that’s how they do it these days.” It was almost as if he was relieved when we told him we didn’t know! He thought that was the greatest thing in the world. “The best surprise anyone could get.”

From the time I was a little girl I always “knew” or *cough cough* THOUGHT I knew that I would have a little girl first. When I was pregnant I would have the craziest most random dreams ALL the time. And I would guess that 90% of the time if I had a dream about the baby , the baby was a girl. I did all the online tests, followed baby’s heart rate, compared it to the heart rates of friends who had babies already, did the ring over the belly test yada, yada, yada, yada……… every one of them said GIRL!!


Was this because I wanted a girl? Because Justin wanted a girl? Was this because I was the first born and I was a girl? Or was it because I truly believed I was having a girl and when my Mom was pregnant with me she KNEW I was a girl. I really have no idea.

But it’s funny how God doesn’t give you what you want he gives you what you need and I believe in some sense he even prepares you for it.

Exhibit A

These shoes………










I bought these shoes probably 3 years before I was even pregnant! Just because they were the littlest cutest tennis I had ever seen! At the time I told myself they could be boy or girl……definitely more boy!

Exhibit B

These shoes……



Larry bought me these shoes 5, that’s right FIVE YEARS before Karson was born!! Let’s just say he was excited for a “Grandbaby!” I know girls can wear camo but these scream “I’m Justin Honcoop’s little BOY!!!” If you know Justin you know he’s a “guys’ guy” and he loves his camo!! In fact if you ever see Karson and he’s dressed in all camouflage or even a little camouflage or has camouflage paint on his face you will know who dressed him:)




Exhibit C

This quilt……





I bought this quilt a year before Karson was born, again before I was even pregnant! I have nothing against little girls loving their puppies and kites, but doesn’t this just say little BOY!?!;)


Exhibit D

These baby cloths




This was the first thing I bought after I found out I was pregnant. I had baby fever and HAD to get online and buy something for the baby and these homemade baby cloths were just too cute to pass up!


Later my Grandma and I found matching material that she had made into some baby blankets for our little Teeny Bean (that‘s what we called Karson before we knew he was Karson.:)




Exhibit E

This necklace




Justin bought this necklace for me 4 months before I had Karson and had pre-paid to have the baby’s name inscribed after he or she was born. He surprised me with it right after Karson was born, thanks again sugar!:) Let’s just say KARSON was MEANT TO BE!! I’m pretty sure the girl name we had picked out would not fit to be inscribed on this necklace!!


Another God telling sign…….. I have ALWAYS LOVED the name Karson! I can remember being in the 4th grade picking out the names Karson and Konnor. From then until now my love for those names has NEVER changed. Thank God Justin liked those names I don’t know what we would have done! I have changed and changed and changed and CHANGED my girl names!! (Justin and I battle over these) Thank goodness God gave me my Karson now I’m just waiting on my Konnor!;)



None of this probably really even matters to anyone besides me because it’s my story:) But the point is your baby is your baby. Boy or Girl, Pink or Blue. It doesn’t really matter!! I always thought I’d have a little girl first and as much as I’d love to one day have a daughter I’d be perfectly content to have 4 little boys! In fact when I talk about having another baby I refer to them as “Konnor!” I love Karson so much I want another just like him!!:)






Pregnancy and labor can be a hard road. I had a great pregnancy and labor but the biggest reward I could have after 9 months of wonder, 22 hours of labor and 2 hours of hard pushing is a healthy baby. Boy or Girl! Pink or Blue! Meeting them for the first time. Nothing else in this world can compare to that feeling. Some may argue that I don’t know what it’s like to “know.” But that’s fine with me, I don’t need to nor do I want to know:) And even though I had to beg Justin in the beginning I think even he will tell you that there’s nothing in the world like it. He’s even agreed that we won’t find out on any of our babies! Aww I love him!:) Cross your fingers that he will always feel this way! He tends to get very excited and goes through the whole “I just want to know” thing!:)


Not knowing what your baby is, is a bonding experience in itself. It’s fun to guess, it’s fun to wonder. Are my dreams right? Are my feelings and intuitions right? It’s fun to have other’s guess! Why would you want to know what you're getting for Chirstmas before Christmas?? It takes away some of the magic!! You're pregnant for 5 months before you even get the option to find out or not. That didn't kill you and you're over HALF WAY THERE!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!:D





You don’t love your baby because he’s a boy or because she’s a girl you love your baby because they are…… your baby<3


*I would love to hear other's opinions on this topic!* When you were pregnant did you find out what you were having? Did you try the old wives tales?? Did they work for you? If you waited were you're intuitions right??:) What is your suggestion to the girls out there debating whether or not they should find out what they're having or wait!!